
It's
sad to think for most of us, our world is basically confined to the few feet in
front of our own noses, but that's what we've let happen to us. And the
small world we've created shrinks a little more each day.
We are losing our compassion for others at an alarming rate. Perhaps
it's
because living in today's world is an increasingly more difficult
struggle. The job market is so competitive with little or no sense
of security no matter what your experience or talent may be. Employers
look for young blood whom they can pay less and give less benefits, and whom
they can work harder, work more hours, and work under more pressure.
Families don't merely need to eat and have a roof over their heads, but they
need more cable
channels, larger TV's, and designer clothes. We bust our rumps to make
enough money to make our limited worlds
as nice and comfortable as we possibly can and at the end of the hard worked
day, we relax and look around and think
the material things we've provided for our little worlds look pretty
danged good. But what are we missing?
We've lost compassion. If an event is not happening almost in our very
city, and maybe not unless it's in on our very own block, we're sorry but
"sorry for your luck, buddy".
We take our elderly and put them in nursing homes because we have to
work. We have to. It's not that we want to work, we say, but we have
to -- to make ends meet. We have to take our kids to soccer
practice. We barely have a minute for ourselves, after work and the kid's
activities. So, our visits to the nursing home become less often. We
surely wish there was more time, we say, but there isn't . We can only do
what we can only do. We make special efforts to visit the nursing home on
holidays, it's become a job now. And when we find out there's been trouble
at the nursing home, we are outraged and we ruffle our feathers and go to the
top and straighten it out because we don't actually want to bring our folks
home, we want somebody else to take care of them ---- and they'd better do it
right, by golly, because we don't have the time to be in there watching them.
I have a cousin who is a nursing home Administrator. Her philosophy is
to think of all the people in her building as her (our) Grandma and treat them as if they
were.
Not all nursing homes are bad but none of them, not one, is
home.
Families used to take in the old folks and it was a treat to the young
children who were actually able to know and enjoy their great-grandparents
instead of having to look at a picture and imagine the sound of their
voices. And, it was even more than that, taking in the old folks instills
a sense of responsibility and compassion in the young.
Compassion is almost gone. I have watched the tragic story of Terri
Schiavo and the published comments and polls absolutely amaze me. 60-70%
think it's ok to starve this disabled and defenseless woman to
death. And the experts are all over the stations saying Terri
Schiavo isn't aware of her surroundings and isn't even aware of her pain.
So, it's ok.
"Think about it, would you want to live that way?", they ask,
thinking they've asked you the question that will surely bring you to reason.
The answer is of course, no. Nobody wants to live that way.
Nobody wants a disabling disease, either. Christopher Reeve surely didn't
want his spinal cord injury. Nobody wants Alzheimer's. Nobody wants
to suffer
any disease or debilitation. It's easy to say you wouldn't want to live
that way and be saying it with a basically healthy body and normal brain.
But, it if happened to you, you might feel differently.
My Grandmother never wanted anything to happen to her, just like the rest of
us don't. She certainly didn't want to have a massive stroke and then have
to struggle to move or express herself. But, when it actually happened to
her, that was different. Then, she wanted to survive --- to live.
It's our most basic instinct.
Terri's legal husband says Terri said she wouldn't want to live that
way. But there was nothing in writing, nothing legal. Now, if you suffer
a massive stroke or heart attack and someone calls 911 but you've stopped
breathing and maybe haven't breathed for many minutes --- but you don't have a
living will, DNR directive in writing, the paramedics have to make every
effort in their power to save you. They have to do that because that's
what medicine is about --- saving lives. If they don't know you'd rather pass on
(by seeing your living will), then they must assume you want to live because
that is and always has been our strongest human instinct.
But not Terri Schiavo, because she has no living will, well, then, she must die
because surely, we've decided, "nobody wants to live that
way." We arrogantly assume for her that she'd rather die than live and we
then get up on our high horses and turn it into Terri having a right to
die. And we ice the cake with: she has a right to die --- with
dignity.
What happened to Terri Schiavo's right to live? There is no dignity in
starving to death. There is only pain and suffering.
Because Terri Schiavo cannot speak for herself, she only has her family to
protect her and the Courts won't let them.
Once again, the black robes disregard the family and treat them as
second class citizens if not criminals. And again, the Supreme Courts
stand up in their matching black robes and make it absolutely impossible for this poor
family to protect their daughter. The society of the black
robes will see to Terri's execution because it's more important to them to stand
with their egos lined up, displaying their absolute power for all to fear, and
bang their gavel. They might as well have banged Terri in the head with
their all important gavel, her suffering would have been over sooner and it
would be more humane than the weapon they have chosen. It's more important
to stand by the original judicial decision no matter what it was because Judges
are never wrong; heck, they're as close to being a god that a human can
become. Protecting the black robe society is more important than
Terri Schiavo and it's a crying shame.
I extend the question, "Would you want to die that
way?" Starvation is a painful, slow and agonizing death.
There is nothing peaceful about it. It is absolutely horrible.
We have a choice. We can execute the severely disabled and try to make
ourselves feel good by saying their execution is going to be comfortable. We can
try to make ourselves feel good by focusing on whether or not this innocent
woman's execution was or was not an issue for Congress, the Governor, or even
the President rather than the fact that her life is important because she is a
human being and life is sacred --- and her husband and the legal system are legally executing
her. We can create any smoke screen we need to get around the fact that
the Court has just allowed her estranged husband to kill her and that's ok because she's brain
damaged. We can tell ourselves she'll be in a better place. We can
do all those things and still make baseball practice.
Or, we can show Terri Schiavo and her parents compassion and empathy.
We still have a selective but declining amount of compassion left. The very people who get up in arms and climb up on their
soapboxes about how abortion is murder and wrong, seem to think the death
penalty is OK. So many of those who have dedicated their lives to what
they say is God's work, think "thou shalt not kill" applies to
abortion but doesn't apply to the death penalty, fabricated war, and Terri
Schiavo. How can that be? It's wrong to kill a life if that
life is a child, but hey if you grow up, well then that's a different
story. Surely God was busy and forgot to add an asterisk to "thou
shalt not kill" in fine print at the bottom of the 10
Commandments, he meant to add "*children only".
When Terri Schiavo is gone, and she is still alive as I write this, the truth
will come out that she was aware and she felt the pain of her execution.
But then it will be too late for her. The 60-70% will allow themselves a
passing sigh, but that's about it --- there's football practice to get to.
And then at the end of the week, the 60-70% will sit in church and pray and sing
happily thinking their God is proud of them..
Terri Schiavo's parents will be devastated. I know how they feel on a
smaller level. The system killed my Grandmother financially and
spiritually, but did not take her life. I was completely powerless to stop
the wolves preying on my Grandmother and I have yet to find the word to express
how hopeless and devastating it feels. But, I understand the Shindlers
because I've been through some of they have gone through. Again, a
guardianship was at the root of the problem. Terri's parents couldn't
protect her because she is a Ward of the State and her rights were taken away from
her --- including her right to live.
We should all be ashamed in the AMErican
"justice" system's and the 60-70-%'s treatment of Terri Schiavo and
her brave and strong parents. For direct information on Terri Schiavo's fight to live, visit her
website www.terrisfight.org.